The child should not say 10 words
There is something that hurts the feeling or is overly
appreciated, that the child should never be a parent.
Under the advice of Toba Klein, director of the Burnt Center
for Todar Development in the United States and the author of How to Tollar
Throwhe, know that no child should ever say the child to the guardian.
'It is not like this, it is to be done'
Children have failed several times to learn something new.
But if you give your instructions repeatedly in their failure from the
beginning, then they will feel they will not be able to work in any way.
Klein said it gives a clear message to the child that 'I can
not do it, only adults know how to do it', which actually works against the
child's confidence increase.
'Foolish day by day'
Maybe the child did not greet them or greeted them, but
because of them, calling him 'fooling day by day' would make the child
embarrassed and uncomfortable because it is a new situation for him. Helping
her understand the emotional level of development, without any hesitation.
'You are very shy'
It is not helpful to say personality level based on a
temporary basis. Klein said, "Children in a natural way, whether or not
they are shy nature, children are very uncomfortable at that moment."
Which adversely affects the feeling of the baby. '
'Something like Kannan did nothing'
When the child feels sad due to crying or crying for some
reason or seemingly unexpectedly, it is embarrassing to tell the child to stop
crying. Klein said, "The child does not rebuke when he tears but rather he
looks for sympathy."
'Big boys cry?'
The boys are said to be the first to fall as a teenager, 'Are
the older boys crying?', Which are strictly instructed to curb their emotions.
This sentence conveys the message that the eldest children do not have
emotional emotion, they are emotionally disturbed.
'Look how beautiful you are!'
You are so beautiful, see how beautiful you are - by
listening to this kind of word, the girls learn to think from a young age, what
the world expects from them. As a result, they started to pay more attention to
their beauty.
'It's not nice, I do not agree with you'
This kind of comment should not be made in case of girls'
clothing. 'It does not agree with you at all, why are you wearing it?' - As a
result, girls should learn to think from childhood and have a specific way of
thinking and they are in a specific way considering the beauty.
'You eat it? It will be fat if it's playing '
Klein said, "This word is mostly gender-based,
especially for girls, but it is said to be the children of all ages." She
also said that in many of our society, many such messages are given in the form
of physical formation of girls in our society. Parents should also see what
their own body and body structure is. When children listen to the concerns of
the guardian over fat and weight, they are concerned about the issue.
'You are smart'
You are very smart, do not encourage the child to do
anything, but to refrain from learning anything from them. Because they think
'I'm smart and I know everything'.
'I'm bored over you'
If a child knows he has made a mistake, then there is no need
to suffer from guilt. Klein said, "If a child already knows that he has
made a mistake or is feeling uneasy for it, then the child is mentally broken
by the time he is reviled again. Instead, try to understand what happened to
the child or why something happened as a guardian and then let him know that it
does not happen anymore and help him improve the situation. "- Klein said.
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